How Failure Creates Great Success

Last Friday I took my 8 year old son skiing for the first time.

While he was off from school for parent teacher conferences, I just took OFF.

Because when you run your own successful home based business, you can do that sort of thing.

You know, movies in the middle of the day on a weekday while everyone else is at work, sleeping in 'til noon if you feel like it...you name it - YOU own your time to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want.


Anyway...

So I'm on a ski lift on my way up to the top of the mountain and I'm watching these young kids in the snow park below me, perform all sorts of aerials on skis.

It was pretty awesome to see these kids on skis doing backflips, twists and all sorts of maneuvers in mid air and actually land on their feet.

Well, when I got to the top of the lift and skied down the mountain a little, I decided to go check out the competition and watch for a few minutes with a couple hundred people standing around drinking hot chocolate and cheering the kids on.

So this one kid approaches the starting gate, ready to begin his heat, and starts gliding down the hill.

Just when all of us spectators are ready to see some magic, he catches an edge at his first jump and winds up face first on the snow, body flailing like a rag doll and sliding down on his belly towards the fence.

Everyone just stood silently to see if he was ok.

Thankfully, the kid laid there for just a quick moment, stood up, brushed himself off and continued back down the mountain to finish the rest of his routine.

Amazingly, he nailed every single jump and finished his run just flawless.

Matter of fact, he performed so well that he wound up coming in first place for his age group, which had 7 other kids all going for the gold medal.

And so, I began to really think about this.

Here's a kid who fell flat on his face within just seconds of getting started for his gold medal run, falls flat on his face, gets up and brushes himself off, and still finishes flawlessly.

All I could think if at first was...WOW -AWESOME!

But then I began thinking about it.

The reason this kid actually won, is because he wasn't afraid to fall again.

And because he did fall at first, the reason he performed the rest of his routine flawlessly, was because there was no more pressure to be perfect.

He already proved that he was human and was still able to perform at his best.

This is also why he won. Because this is how winners perform.

They are not afraid to fail and continue learning from each experience. This is how you develop wisdom.

This then got me thinking about how home business entrepreneurs operate.

They put so much pressure on themselves to do everything right, say the right things and be perfect, that they go either way too slow to ever create any momentum, stay stuck or just dont go at all.

When all along, if they would not worry so much about the outcome and just stay focussed on the process, not only would they learn the most productive skills they need to get to the top of success mountain, but they'd also develop the character to stay there.

You see, a HUGE part of success, is failure. Because without failure, there would not be any success.

Just like without cold, there would not be heat or without bottom, there would be no top
So, if you want more success in your business and in your life, not only should you be willing to welcome failure, but expect it. More importantly,expect to learn from it.

So, the bottom line is...if you are already experiencing some results, great - keep at it.
However, if you truly want to double your rate of success, then you must be willing to double your rare of failure.

Remember, you don't have to get it all right to succeed - you just have to get it going.

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Aaron & Sophia Rashkin are Multiple Six Figure Income Earners in Home Based Business and are currently taking Applications to mentor just a small handful of others to start living their own dreams and goals in their New Business.

If you feel you have what it takes to become Self Employed, can follow a System and work well with others, head on over to their website and take a look at how they've been able to create a business that now pays them over 30K in just their 5th month.

What Makes the Difference between Success & Failure?

Looking back at the past decade of my networking career, there are several philosophies that have greatly contributed to my success over the years.

Now keep in mind, back in 1995 when I first set out to take back control of my life, I was a personal trainer in a gym, reporting to work every day at 5:30 a.m. in a pair of shorts and a collard t-shirt.

My job entailed holding a clipboard and counting backwards from ten to one while my clients lifted weights.

Those days, I had a whole different set of philosophies.

I lived paycheck to paycheck, couldn't afford to take one day off no matter how I felt; tired, sick or whatever, bills always on my mind, commuting 45 minutes each way and having to put up with adult babies who complained, made excuses, procrastinated and cheated on their diets!

I did all this for 20K per year.

When I reached my own pain threshold, (you know...that point that you just can't take it anymore and know you have to do something about it), I made the decision to stop trading my time for dollars and never work for anyone else ever again. (new philosophies beginning to form)

So, even though I started out as a personal trainer living in a small apartment, I was able to flip my entire life around with one single decision to change.

I was so disgusted about what Corporate America was all about, that I got into business for myself and the rest as they say, is history.

After running my own one-man-band private label sports supplement business for several years and going backwards into a lot of deb't, I decided to get more serious about my present and future and got focused on success in network marketing.

I was committed to developing passive in'come though the power of leverage which came from building my people and marketing teams. (Notice I said, building people; not building my business. A philosophy inside a philosophy!)

At first, I did not get great results (to the naked eye at least), but over the years, the philosophies that I adhered to, along with total commitment, discipline and massive action, I've been able to reach a level of complete and total fre'edom.

If you came to our Industry for these same things, here's one of my Old vs. New Personal Philosophies that you may want to look into for yourself: ( I will publish more in future posts).

Old Philosophy - Don't do anything unless it can be done perfectly.

New Philosophy - Doing something, even if its wrong, is better than doing nothing at all.

As my friend (who I met up at the Ritz in West Palm last month for 8 days with our families) Litman says, "You don't have to get it right; just get it going."

Truth is, everyone is a perfectionist in some way.

And since that includes you, you've got two choices:

Either positive or negative.

The Positive Perfectionist is a doer.

They are producers.

They get going and make adjustments along the way.

They don't require approval or permission to do anything. They just do it.

Oftentimes they fire before they are ready or even aim. (Some of the biggest success stories come from this personality by the way!)

They makes changes as they go forward and get better as they continue.

They make progress, even if they experience a temporary set back. (Remember, the set back is the set UP, for the Come Back!)

They stay outside of their comfort zone, which is why they succeed. They are constantly chasing perfection through action.

They jump first and grow their wings on the way down.

They are big producers.

So, the key is to just get going. Just start.

Do the wrong things until you do the right things. As long as you are moving forward, you are making progress.

The Negative Perfectionist is a procrastinator.

Most often, they don't start anything unless it's perfect.

They seek approval and/or permission from others to move forward.

The Negative Perfetionist cleans their desk, organizes their files, and practices their approach, yet they never get anywhere because by the time they get around to doing actual business, they are too tired from all the "getting ready to get ready" and as a result, make no progress.

They call their sponsor and ask how they sound on their new headset, want to bounce new ideas off their friends and read the script a hundred times so that they can sound perfect when they read it to their suspects.

Anything to prevent having to take the real action that is going to make them successful.

Anything to keep them from getting out of their comfort zone.

Anything to keep them from having to make a decision and commit to it.

Anything from doing the wrong thing, so as not to look foolish or feel bad about themself.

Anything not to speak to new people, learn to market or improve their value by investing in themself.

So, here's how you go from being a Negative Perfectionist to a Positive Perfectionist:

Do something, anything, even if it's not 100% correct.

Take a chance.

Take a risk.

Invest in yourself and your leadership value.

Don't be afraid to fail.

Don't be afraid to rack up some losses.

Don't be afraid to take a step back in order to make the big leap.

What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.

You can always go back and correct mistakes and by taking notes and keeping score with yourself and your progress, you will gain the most important thing, and that is experience.

And this experience you develop, will give you that 6th sense called Intuition, which will allow you to make smart choices, act without "thinking" and going from being in your head, to coming from your heart.

Remember, as my friend Jeff Combs says, "Heart beats Talent Everytime!"

Develop more heart and acheive more success!

Keep your eyes peeled for more of my Favorite Old vs. New Philosophies in future posts.

Aaron

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